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Enough
Yesterday we watched Adjustment Bureau, and while the movie was pretty cool (which Matt Damon vehicle isn’t?), only one thing in the entire show stood out to me.
The young upstart of a senator was being told why the Bureau was so hell-bent on splitting him and the love of his life up:
“Because she’s enough, David. If you have her you won’t need to fill that void inside of you with applause and votes and dreams of one day making it to the White House.”
Because she’s enough.
All too often we wish our other halves could be more gentlemanly, more beautiful, taller, leaner, gentler, more considerate, more creative, more intelligent, more sensitive, more astute, more gracious, more successful, more driven, more expressive, more romantic, more generous, less likely to leave the toilet seat up and less likely to hog the duvet.
The wishlist is endless. Because nothing is ever enough. Nobody is ever enough.
But what if we meet somebody who is just that? Just enough.
Enough to not only make that neverending wishlist disappear, but also to finally realize that it’s okay for you just to be, well, you.
All my life I’ve been taught to expect change to be the only constant. I’ve been told on many countless occasions that anything and anyone can be changed, and they will. So this is why I’ve never been very good with the idea of being happy with just having enough.
I’ve been told that being satiated with having enough is just going to lead to stagnancy and complacency. Maybe that works to a fair extent while making the sharpest possible ascend up the corporate ladder, but what if we’re talking about that one special someone we want to wake up to every morning?
At the risk of sounding uncharacteristically soppy, I know I do want someone who is enough. I’ve spent so many years with guys who made me crave to be more than the sum of what I could ever be, and who made me want the same for them too. Every single day was a battle that could only lead to the same old insurmountable wishlist. For me and for them. It’s been exhausting. Sometimes, heartwrenching.
You can imagine why that single liner from the movie struck a stark chord with me.
So I want to stop the constant pursuit for someone who has more of this or less of that. Because it inadvertently makes me want to transform myself in all forms of mysterious algorithms, according to what that someone wants me to be. It’s a power struggle that never ceases.
I want to be with someone because he’s enough.
2 months ago
